Parenting and teenage dating
During the teenage years, it’s especially important to slowly put to death the perception that your teen is still “a kid.” They are , and if you engage them as such, you will find that over time, they unconsciously take on this mantle for themselves.
Sometimes parents think that a strong relationship with their teen means having a strong friendship—but there’s a fine line that shouldn’t be crossed.
And that isn’t “if you want to be” either–that’s the way it is.
Ultimately, you are charged with teaching and modelling to your teen what follow Jesus means, and while church, youth groups, Christian schools can be a to that end, they are only that: support mechanisms.
That doesn’t align itself to Jesus’ teaching as it relates to the healthy rhythms of prayer, Sabbath, and down-time, all of which are critical to the larger Christian task of “seeking first the kingdom of God and His righteousness” (Matthew ). A lot of the time parents are well-intentioned in our spoiling, but our continual stream of money and stuff causes teens to never be satisfied and always wanting more. Maybe it’s because many parents feel so overwhelmed with their own issues, they can hardly think of pouring more energy into a (potentially) taxing struggle or point of contention.
Your teen doesn’t need another piece of crap, what he needs is time and attention from you (that’s one expression of spoiling that actually benefits your teen! There are two things that can really set you back in life if we get them too early: a. Whatever the reason, permissive parenting is completely irreconcilable with a Christian worldview. Your teen doesn’t need another friend (they have plenty); they need a parent.